In 2018, after 4 years of being a pseudo-anonymous trauma blogger - and after having written and released 4 books in those same 4 years along with the blogging - I decided to retire from writing at Thoughts from J8. I had reached a point where I was safe and my system was stable, and I wanted to focus on living my life in the external world. I wanted to enjoy what I had worked so hard for.
I don't believe anyone is ever truly "finished" with their healing - we all have areas where we can continue to learn and grow - but safety and stability are definitely achievements worth celebrating and enjoying.
When I stopped actively blogging, I had a desire to work one on one with people who are struggling; not just writing generic blog posts about this and that. So much about Dissociative Identity Disorder and dissociation/multiplicity is system-specific. It's hard to give very many tips or very much guidance that applies to everyone. What might be helpful to one system could be utterly destructive to another. What means one thing to one system might mean something very different to another. Etc.
So I began doing peer work. I enjoy working with people/systems on a more personal level. Sometimes people just need to vent to someone who gets it. Sometimes people need to consult about a loved one they want to support. Sometimes people want help with their own internal relationships. The needs vary, and trauma recovery has many facets.
If you'd like to learn more about what I do as a peer worker, and/or are interested in booking a session yourself, please visit my peer work site. I only work with a certain number of people at a time, as I limit my hours so that I have time with my husband when he's home from work. Typically my availability is weekday mornings or early afternoons.
If you have questions, please reach out. I look forward to hearing from you.