Frequently Asked Questions
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Why don't you use trigger warnings (TW)?
This is something I have changed when I redesigned my blog/website. I used to use trigger warnings on and in posts, but now I have done away with them.
“TW” means “trigger warning” and is primarily stated (when it applies) at the beginning of a blog post for the benefit of abuse survivors who might find reading about certain sensitive topics to be damaging to their well-being at that specific point in time. If they are not mentally or emotionally in a stable place, sometimes it is helpful to them to know what topic is about to be discussed so they can decide whether they want to read it or exit the page. It also alerts them to read with caution and self-awareness, so they can recognize anything internal that might be triggered by the subject at hand, and respond accordingly.
However, I decided not to use trigger warnings anymore, for a couple reasons. First of all, as a matter of principle I do not disclose any graphic details about anything in my blog posts. I will sometimes – out of necessity – do some mild discussion of potentially triggering topics, because it’s extremely hard to discuss healing from something without ever mentioning some of the things one is healing from. But as far as particulars go, I prefer to be emailed if readers have specific questions and/or want or need more detailed information that they can’t find on the internet, or would prefer to ask a real person. The truth is that a simple Google search will typically provide a ton of resources of greater or lesser accuracy and intensity, so if people really want the graphic stuff, it’s not hard to find. I want this blog to be a more benign source of info, focusing a bit less on what happened and a bit more on what to do now.
Secondly, it is impossible to guess exactly what might be triggering to any given reader. Trauma survivors are all unique and different; what might bother one person won't bother another. In the end, anything has the potential to be triggering and in my opinion it's a little bit pointless to try to guess what that is for everyone. I just can't do it.
And last, part of recovery is developing self-awareness and coping skills so that triggers can be dealt with safely, and ultimately neutralized. If we avoid everything in life that has the potential to be triggering, we are greatly limiting ourselves and our world. If someone has come to this blog looking for information who is in such a fragile state that they cannot handle reading even tasteful, non-graphic discussions of topics listed here, it's probably not a good time for them to be doing this kind of reading anyway. I would recommend self-care and getting to a more stable place before trying to read about trauma recovery.
What does J8 mean?
“J8” is the name I was given in my system. Over time, through mispronunciation, misinterpretation, etc, it evolved into the name “Jade,” which I like and identify with. (It is not my legal name, which I have to function under in real daily life, but it is the name I write under in order to maintain safety and privacy on the big ole Internet.) But its original form is J8 and sometimes insiders who aren’t my friend yet will still call me that, intending it as an insult. I’ve just decided to embrace it, since (as Abraham Lincoln supposedly said) “I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.” If I’m not offended, I can simply love them…no matter what they say.
What is DID/multiplicity? What is the difference (or is there one)?
This depends largely upon who you ask. D.I.D. stands for Dissociative Identity Disorder, which used to be called Multiple Personality Disorder. It is a widely accepted tenet that those who have alters, inside people, other ego states, or whatever you prefer to call them, have them because of traumatic experiences from the past. There are those who assert that “natural multiplicity” can occur, without the person having experienced trauma. I am not here to argue with people whose experiences don’t match up with mine, so I will leave that to you to form an opinion on. As far as an explanation of all of these topics, I must point you to Google for a more thorough listing of informative reading. The resource page from my old website will be exported to this blog shortly.
What is SRA?
“SRA” stands for Satanic Ritual Abuse, which is also not something I will discuss in depth, neither here nor on the blog. Briefly, it is an extremely sadistic type of abuse that utilizes various forms of torture and brutality, usually beginning young and often lasting for years (or even a lifetime). With SRA there are satanic elements, rituals, and beliefs interwoven in the abuse in order to indoctrinate the victim into that belief system. There are other types of ritual abuse (RA) that are not specifically satanic. All satanic ritual abuse is ritual abuse, but not all ritual abuse is satanic ritual abuse…if that makes sense. Regardless of the exact belief system of the perpetrators, the degree of the pain and trauma endured by the victims most often results in the victim developing multiple personalities to survive, which starts off as a very reasonable and adaptive response, but in many cases becomes maladaptive later in the survivor’s life. The degree of the violence and horrific nature of the experiences, sadly, causes many people to disbelieve survivors and dismiss S/RA as made up or fabricated. This is one of the biggest tragedies of our country’s history, in my humble opinion.
What is MC/programming?
“MC” stands for “mind control” which is achieved through torture which is usually referred to as “programming.” The MC usually referred to in this blog is trauma-based (which is also abbreviated TBMC) and sometimes accomplished through the additional use of hypnosis, along with drugs, technology, and clever programming deceptions, among other things. Those who have undergone Monarch programming are often called “slaves,” and the ones who control them are often called “handlers.” Again, won’t go into details, but you can find plenty of info about it on the internet. If you have specific questions, please email me privately.
What happened to your resource page from your old blog?
It was just too hard to keep up with. Many of the links were broken, outdated, expired, etc. I don't have time for the upkeep, so I invite everyone to defer to the good sir Google, or his friends, if you need a resource.